Interestingly enough, I think Matthew (who for those of you who haven't read Mr. Bossypants, is non-verbal) has found a way to soften the blow. It used to be that when Grandma Buettner would come to the house he would start to cry. Now, Matthew loves Grandma Buettner (she always brings him special treats and scratches his back). But Grandma coming to our house = Mama leaving!!! It's an undeniable fact that Matthew is a Mama's boy. He wasn't crying because Grandma was there, but he was crying because I was leaving. But a few months ago, he tried something new. When Grandma came to the door he signed "I love you", immediately followed with "bye bye". He now does this pretty much every time Grandma comes over. Obviously Grandma can't leave just because he tells her bye bye, but she can reaffirm that she heard what he said by saying "I love you too, but I'm staying. We are going to play and have fun." He then watches out the front window and we blow kisses to each other.
He now does those same two signs when Grandma Sieling comes or when one of his therapists comes. I noticed he did this sign only when one of his therapists would come to our house. He has known this therapist for years and has never had a problem with her so I knew that there had to be more to the story. I can't leave during therapy so I knew that he wasn't trying to tell me not to leave. He does often sign for me to "sit down", so that I stay in the same room. His lead therapist always brings this special sand that he loves, but the other therapist doesn't bring sand with her. The more I thought about it, I think he was trying to say in his own way that he wanted the sand.
Last weekend, we were up at my sister's cabin and Matthew and I shared a bed in the basement so that if he woke up in the middle of the night it wouldn't affect everybody else. His track record for sleeping through the night on the road is not stellar. This trip he surprised me by sleeping through three out of the four nights...I guess it was all that fresh air! The night that he did wake up (at 3 am, mind you) his response to my repeated requests for him to "LAY DOWN" was "I love you" "bye bye"!
Matthew has two other interesting ways that he came up with to let you know that he wants you to go away or that he wants more time to do something. When both of our kids were little, we would let them push the snooze button (our nose) to say they needed a little more time to wake up. Being an avid user of the snooze button myself, it seemed only fair to give them time to wake up versus jumping right out of bed. Matthew took that little signal of pushing our nose and transferred it to other situations (Damn, he's smart!).
Well, I'm feeling the need to enjoy a little chocolate fix in peace so...MUAH...